By Michael Allan
Unfortunately, there are negative people in the world that don’t have the same moral values or ethics of the rest of mankind. These people take great pleasure in feeding their own ego at your expense. They may be physically or emotionally abusive and trap people in negative patterns to feed on drama and energy.
I have 8 warning signs that the person you’re dealing with is an energy vampire or to be nice a slippery person.
- The Tit for Tat Person
This person calculates every gift they have ever given you or thing they have done for you and expects double in return. They are extreme manipulators wanting servants to be in debt to them. They don’t enter a relationship putting their best foot forward or have a win/win mentality. They hold a grudge and a calculator.
- You were Warned Person
Other people warned you to stay away. Sometimes when we’re in a relationship with an individual we lack the ability to see their flaws and are unable to take ourselves out of the equation and be the observer. People did their best to plant seeds but you just didn’t get it for whatever reason. Others close to you saw straight through the facade from the get go.
- Time Bandits
Negative people steal your time and put more value on their own. By stealing your time it throws you off track to completing projects and success. Maybe deep down they are jealous of you and don’t want you to succeed. Since they have an over inflated sense of ego they feel you should give them mass quantities of your time and energy for free and try to fill their black hole for self gain.
- The Liar
All factual accusations will be denied and they will lie to your face even after you caught them. They manipulate information to get their way. They would also lie about someone else in order to shift blame and responsibility in order to not take full ownership.
- Control Freak Person
They love to have full control of you, everyone and everything around them. They pay attention to fine details about what you said and what you’re doing, jumping down your throat the first chance they get. Very narcissistic behavior that keeps you on edge and wears you down quickly of self-confidence and self esteem. If you don’t conform you’re made to feel bad and guilty then punished in some way perhaps by berating or the silent treatment.
- Unapologetic Person
Something in the relationship happened and they apologized but they genuinely are not sincere and don’t own the apology. Its always a back handed apology making you feel like you’re the one at fault or crazy or that you’re being overly sensitive. They lack empathy in all areas of their life and are about serving themselves at others expense.
- They misguide you
What negative people are great at is over promising and under delivering. This individual is a master manipulator and will use every excuse as to why they couldn’t keep a promise or deliver. They may justify their actions by blaming you, making you look or feel wrong while they make themselves look good.
- The Victim
I’ve saved what I believe is the worst for last. I feel it’s the worst type of energy vampire because it can be the hardest to recognize especially for those that have dedicated their lives to helping heal and serve others.
Negative people that have mastered the victim role will never blame themselves for why things got so screwed up and therefore will continue their negative loop. They are incapable of taking responsibility for a bad situation and will always place blame on coworkers, friends, family, and partners. These people usually control the conversation with them and their problems draining you. They stay in control of a relationship by blame and feeding on your sympathy. These people exercise delusion and live in the lies of their own mind and false reality.
If any of these personality types are in your life I ask that you be the observer and question why you’re holding on to them and for what reason. The negative tactics and patterns of these people could happen slowly over time and go unnoticed lowering self-esteem and confidence. Be aware some mental disorders like Narcissism or Emotional Personality Disorder have no cure so ask yourself can I see myself in this same place a year from now? Five years from now? 20 years???
In order to ascend one must let go. Karmic relationships are usually one sided and created for you to overcome!
Honor yourself and love yourself! Protect and place great value on energy you hold for the strongest, tallest and most beautiful trees have been pruned over time of dead or diseased branches in order to thrive and flower year after year…
Warm Regards, Michael Allan
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